It's not easy to do the right thing when it seems everyone else isn't. In the Bible, we see that out of all the Jews taken in the Babylonian Exile, only 3 refused to bow to Nebuchadnezzar's statue. In Washington, we see that only one man is willing to stand up and...just kidding. I have no desire to write about politics ever.
Last week, I got to help run a youth camp program in Muskegon with my friends Amy and Todd. It was a new experience for me, and it was really fun. One kid stood out to me on two separate occasions. One was good, one was not. On Wednesday, he and I had a run in when he openly disrespected me. Up to that point, he had been pretty respectful and was enjoying himself. So we had some words, most of which came from me, and we parted ways. We were fine, though, and he continued coming the rest of the week. That was the first time he stood out to me, and to be honest, it made the next time even more surprising.
On Friday, something happened. I noticed that a group of older guys was sitting off to the side, refusing to engage with the rest of the group. Amy knew why, but I hadn't heard yet. This middle school guy had been hanging around them the whole week, trying to be accepted into their group. He wanted to be cool to them and followed them around a lot. They actually accepted him into their little circle and let him in on a secret: they had been doing bad things that week: destructive things. They were bragging about it. Now he had a choice to make. Did he want to be cool or let someone know? I think that most kids - and frankly, most adults - would have kept their mouths shut. You know, because snitches get stitches. But not this kid. He went and told Amy what had happened, because it needed to be done. He chose the uncool way out, and on Friday, he was out of the group.
After I had all the details, I went and found him, and we had some more words, with most of them coming from me again. If I pulled him aside to express disappointed in the way he behaved earlier in the week, I was going to be sure to pull him aside and tell him how impressed with him and proud of him I was this time. And that's something you should do. If you don't take time to praise the good things and right decisions someone makes, you should probably bite your tongue and not criticize or correct them, either.
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Thursday, August 16, 2012
specks and logs and judging others
We are all probably familiar with the verses that talk about removing the log from your own eye before worrying about the speck in someone else's eye. Right? Because when someone points out an area of concern in our lives, it's a pretty quick retort to throw out there. There's that and the often misused, "judge not, lest ye be judged." People love the King James Version when they're trying to convict others with the Bible, I suppose. These happen to be back-to-back in the Bible, found in Matthew 7, and I want to take a minute to look at how they actually apply to our lives. First, let's read the verses:
"“1 Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye."
Judge not. You can't judge me. Who are you to say that what I'm doing is sin? The first two statements are accurate, but that last one is a misapplication. Saying that something is a sin is not judging. It is reiterating what God has already written, and He's also commanded us as Christians to hold each other accountable to following what He's written, so we should slow our high and mighty roll before throwing it out inaccurately. So what does it really mean? To judge someone means to pass judgement. Get it? It's a little redundant, but people still miss it. If I were to say, "Having sex outside of marriage is a sin," I wouldn't be judging anything or anyone. I'd be stating a Biblical fact. Now, if I were to say, "If you are having sex outside of marriage, God should not bless you in any way, and you should not be forgiven and get to go to Heaven," I'd be adjudicating a sentence for your sin. That's judging. Now I'm taking God's place as Judge, and I am by actions asking God to hold me to the same standards of judgment I'm using. So first, remember that there's a difference between identifying what the Bible has clearly called sin and passing judgment or condemnation for the sinner.
Now, about those specks and logs. My brother and I were recently tweeting back and forth about this, because we're really hip and use twitter. If someone were to say to you, "Hey, you really shouldn't be getting drunk like that," you might be tempted to throw out, "Why don't you worry about the log in your eye before worrying about the speck in mine?" We've heard it a lot, especially recently, and it rubs us the wrong way like a cat being grabbed by the tail and pet backwards straight up his back. It just bugs me. You know why? Because it is true that I need to worry about the sin in my life, but you're not supposed to compare yourself to me. You're supposed to emulate Jesus. So you should never let the log in my eye or anyone else's eye keep you from pulling the speck out of yours. If someone points out a sin in my life, I would hope I'd be humble enough to bite my tongue, look at myself, and address the issue. I want to grieve my sin just like Jesus does. I want to hate my sin so much that even the specks bother me. You know why? Because if the only sins I were ever guilty of were specks, it would still require Jesus' blood to pay my penalty and give me life in Heaven.
If we are ever to grow as Christians, we're going to need each other to hold us accountable. Iron sharpens iron. Iron doesn't tell iron not to judge it. It accepts the friction and grows as a result. We need to grow thicker skin and stop pretending to be offended when someone points out our sin. Let's stop deflecting and just clean the specks and the logs out of our eyes, so we can see Jesus more clearly in our lives.
"“1 Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye."
Judge not. You can't judge me. Who are you to say that what I'm doing is sin? The first two statements are accurate, but that last one is a misapplication. Saying that something is a sin is not judging. It is reiterating what God has already written, and He's also commanded us as Christians to hold each other accountable to following what He's written, so we should slow our high and mighty roll before throwing it out inaccurately. So what does it really mean? To judge someone means to pass judgement. Get it? It's a little redundant, but people still miss it. If I were to say, "Having sex outside of marriage is a sin," I wouldn't be judging anything or anyone. I'd be stating a Biblical fact. Now, if I were to say, "If you are having sex outside of marriage, God should not bless you in any way, and you should not be forgiven and get to go to Heaven," I'd be adjudicating a sentence for your sin. That's judging. Now I'm taking God's place as Judge, and I am by actions asking God to hold me to the same standards of judgment I'm using. So first, remember that there's a difference between identifying what the Bible has clearly called sin and passing judgment or condemnation for the sinner.
Now, about those specks and logs. My brother and I were recently tweeting back and forth about this, because we're really hip and use twitter. If someone were to say to you, "Hey, you really shouldn't be getting drunk like that," you might be tempted to throw out, "Why don't you worry about the log in your eye before worrying about the speck in mine?" We've heard it a lot, especially recently, and it rubs us the wrong way like a cat being grabbed by the tail and pet backwards straight up his back. It just bugs me. You know why? Because it is true that I need to worry about the sin in my life, but you're not supposed to compare yourself to me. You're supposed to emulate Jesus. So you should never let the log in my eye or anyone else's eye keep you from pulling the speck out of yours. If someone points out a sin in my life, I would hope I'd be humble enough to bite my tongue, look at myself, and address the issue. I want to grieve my sin just like Jesus does. I want to hate my sin so much that even the specks bother me. You know why? Because if the only sins I were ever guilty of were specks, it would still require Jesus' blood to pay my penalty and give me life in Heaven.
If we are ever to grow as Christians, we're going to need each other to hold us accountable. Iron sharpens iron. Iron doesn't tell iron not to judge it. It accepts the friction and grows as a result. We need to grow thicker skin and stop pretending to be offended when someone points out our sin. Let's stop deflecting and just clean the specks and the logs out of our eyes, so we can see Jesus more clearly in our lives.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Sunday gives me the funniest quotes
We all know that kids say the best stuff. Why? Because they're unfiltered. I get to spend time with elementary students on many Sunday mornings, and I hang out with teenagers on Sunday nights. I always seem to have something funny to share with Sarah, and it's usually something a kid said. This weekend was no exception. I taught elementary, and although I didn't teach, I was at youth group. Here are the two top quotes from this weekend that caught me off guard and made me laugh.
Josh, 5th grade
Me: Does anyone know any gross Bible stories?
Josh: Adam and Eve in the garden
Me: You think that was a gross story?
Josh: Yeah, they were naked. That's nasty.
Carter, 8th grade
"What's that cologne you wear? It's the one that you have a bottle of on your desk. Cause you smell like an angel." Yup, he was talking to me.
If I remember, I'll continue to share these, but I almost never blog what I say I'll blog, so I'm making no promises.
Josh, 5th grade
Me: Does anyone know any gross Bible stories?
Josh: Adam and Eve in the garden
Me: You think that was a gross story?
Josh: Yeah, they were naked. That's nasty.
Carter, 8th grade
"What's that cologne you wear? It's the one that you have a bottle of on your desk. Cause you smell like an angel." Yup, he was talking to me.
If I remember, I'll continue to share these, but I almost never blog what I say I'll blog, so I'm making no promises.
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